A “secret” to our relationship

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According to this New Yorker article, science shows that reading out loud is “good for children, E.S.L. students, and (in a way) dogs.” And psychologists agree – it’s good for non-ESL grown-ups in a relationship too! There are many understandable reasons reading a book out-loud is good for a relationship: you share a common interest, it creates intimacy, and most of all – it is something you do together that doesn’t involve a screen (so no e-readers allowed!).

And I am no expert on love or relationships (although if you are looking for some real quality advice – here are 12 relationship tips from a wedding reporter), but I have to say, reading a book out-loud to each other is totally “me and chris’s thing”. When we tell people we do that some let out a big “aw!” while other’s roll their eyes and try not to puke. I totally get how cheesy it sounds, but I can’t deny how much happiness it brings us.

It all began when we went on our first REAL (non-family oriented) vacation together to Mexico and we had brought separate books, but Chris was loving his book far more than I was enjoying mine, so I wanted in on the action. It then became a tradition we did while on vacation, but we loved it so much we just started doing it at home too.

We have found the pros are endless and include the following: you get excited to crawl into bed together, you always have someone to discuss your thoughts on the book with, and most of all, falling asleep as someone reads to you is the BEST way in the world to drift off into dreamland. The only major con we have found is when your partner falls asleep and you keep reading and then someone always has to “catch up” before you can start reading the next night (but let’s face it, that is a serious first-world problem).

As for what KIND of books to read, we have really stuck with the more sci-fi, light-hearted, story-driven books. Mostly anything that is described as “Harry Potter for Grown-Ups!”. Here are some SLAM DUNKS we have read out-loud and really enjoyed:

The Magicians (series) by Lev Grossman (This was the FIRST book we read out lout to each other!)
The Hunger Games (series) by Suzanne Collins
American Gods by Neil Gaiman
Beautiful Ruins by Jess Walter (while honeymooning in Italy – this is perfect)
Ender’s Game and Ender’s Shadow by Orson Scott Card
Ready Player One by Ernest Cline
The Circle by Dave Eggers

Got a book to recommend? We are always on the hunt for what book to read out-loud next – so PLEASE for the sake of our relationship send ideas!

3 Responses to “A “secret” to our relationship”

  1. Amanda

    I love this! Peter read me short fiction from the New Yorker while I took my driving turns from about Chicago to Big Timber back in 2013. It was so romantic and lovely! I definitely recommend short stories because it helps the “catch up” problem (and it is always me who falls asleep first during reading or watching) and they are usually jam packed with little nuggets for discussion. I’m reading a book of essays and short stories right now called This Is the Story of a Happy Marriage by Ann Patchett. It’s great! I may do some reading aloud of it tonight! Thanks for the reminder. xo

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  2. Erica

    I used to do this with my mom and my ex used to love it too! My mom and I read a whole book to each other one weekend because I kept giggling when reading it – so it was triply hilarious when read out loud. I would recommend the Princess Bride as well. I read the Circle – WOAH. Now that is not cottage reading material. Good – I still think about it – but so intense!!!

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    • lberco

      Oh man The Circle was crazy intense! It actually infuriating me half the time, but we still really enjoyed it. As a follow-up to The Circle I suggest watching Black Mirror!

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